I JUST JOINED AND I AM AMAZED AT THE SIZE OF THIS FORUM

Time_2_Heal · Joined: 15 Jun 2008 Posts: 9

As I looked through all the forums I could not believe how large this one was. It is so sad that cheating is so prevalent now and that people have no regard for the devastation it leaves behind for all involved.

Does it seem to be getting worse than in years past or is it just becoming noticed & brought out into the open? Does anybody think it has gotten worse since the internet became a part of everyone's life or has it always been this way? I'd love to hear other's thoughts on the matter.

I WAS once married to a chronic liar & a cheat and the ease in which he lied without a drop of guilt or emotion just stunned me. The crocodile tears were the best part! Maybe I'm old fashioned but I stutter if I have to lie to my doctor about how much coffee I drink Laughing

square813 · Joined: 25 Jul 2006 Posts: 246

i believe it got worse since the internet. it made it easy

rubytheminx · Joined: 24 Feb 2008 Posts: 2

I honestly think that with the internet a man has not one single obligation to one single woman.
I had a man fly from England (met on Internet) just to see ME! or so i thought. The next morning something just told me to take a look and see and what do you know....There he was on Match and Sugar Daddie.com.
He broke my heart because then he lied and said he had a terrible rash and was flying back to England.....AND he didn't. I found out he stayed here and was still cruisin the internet for love....or sex whichever.
The thing is I gave him an out and he said how much he cared for me and how beautiful I was and all this other bs. He said he was going home for medical attention but back soon to celebrate my birthday in 4 weeks.
So beware and warn women of Jensula on Match he is looking for a green card I think.
He is also on Sugar Daddie too!

MidnightLace1949 · Joined: 04 May 2008 Posts: 13

Yes, since the internet web-dating has gotten precarious at best fo women. Take JOHN DRAGOS for example...HE IS THE BIGGEST PREDITOR OF WOMEN IN MCKEESPORT, PA HE STARTS "TROLLING" FOR WOMEN IN MID-AFTERNOON & INTO THE LATE NIGHT. HE OFTEN HAS TO ASK YOU TO WAIT BECAUSE HE IS IM-ING ANOTHER WOMAN THE SAME TIME HE IS IM-ING WITH YOU, BUT SAYS IT IS WORK...RIGHT & I'M THE POPE! Read his profile....look at how many women have viewed his profile...He is a "PLAYER". If a man has joined a web-date site years ago yet is still TROLLING" month after month for women that is a sure clue that he is a "PLAYER" . Another clue is if they start calling you indearing names before you have even met, another is explicit sex chat & wanting nude pictures & web-cam nudity....The only way to stop these preditors, is fo us ladies to post them here on DDHG ...I hope ever woman whoi has been "CHARMED" into bed with JOHN DRAGOS does exactly that... AVOID THIS COWARD, CAD & TOTAL JERK...LET HIM DIE WITH HIS PENIS IN HE OWN HAND(S) Sad

Been there...Done that...Too Sad

MidnightLace1949 · Joined: 04 May 2008 Posts: 13

PS. JOHN DRAGOS IS MORE THAN LIKELY MARRIED!!! THAT IS WHY HE CAN ONLY TAKE JUST "A JEW HOURS" TO BE WITH "HIS LADY", AT ONE OF HIS CHEAP MOTELS ON RTs. 30 & 51 OR @ YOUR PLACE.
THERE IS NO SHAME IN BEING "CHARMED" BY THIS MAN (?) THE SHAME IS ALL HIS FOR USING WOMEN AS HIS PERSONAL PLAY TOY.
ALSO HE IS OLDER THAN HE SAYS, HAS FALSE TEETH, SMOKES MARLBOROS, WEARS THE SAME UNDER-SHORTS, DRINKS ONLY ICE TEA AND IS NOT AN INVESTIGATOR, ...I BELIEVE HE IS A PROCESS SERVER, [/b][/color][/size]
SOONER THAN LATER I HOPE JOHN DRAGOS GETS CAUGHT..... THAT CAN ONLY HAPPEN IF ALL OF US INDIVIDUAL "LADIES" HE HAS "CHARMED", INDIVIDUALLY PUT HIS PROFILE WITH PICTURE ON DDHG THEMSELVES

karyn62 · Joined: 21 Apr 2008 Posts: 5

Well, I don't know John Dragos, but I def. think cheating is more common, and easier since the internet has become a part of every household and work place. You have to think, cheating is not just physical, if a guy is having an online relationship, or cyber sex then he is still mentally cheating on the woman he is physically with and supposedly loves. To me that is the same as if he was out screwing her! The internet has helped destroy relationships! I know of a few!

courtneyiscool · Joined: 26 Mar 2007 Posts: 130

time they can do it undetected, too. I dated a guy once who had me in his real life and two other women in a separate Internet life he created for himself. It was horrible!

Chalene · Joined: 09 Apr 2007 Posts: 19

I think the internet can allow con men to target women world wide instead of just in his community of places he might go to look for a victim. However, the internet gives great power to women to know if a man is married, has a history of cheating, has a criminal record. Google is a woman's best friend in keeping safe. It is now very easy to find court records and verify information that a woman is being told. Just remember that any NEW great man you may meet is someone else's ex - and quite possibly ex nightmare. Find out WHY their last relationship ended. If they could not end a relationship cordially it is a huge red flag. Con men portray themselves as a victim - that's how they get a woman to feel sorry for them and think they will be the ONE who can fix him. Men target woman like that and there are many men like this in churches and dating sites such as eharmony. Always trust your gut feeling because that funny feeling you get is there is protect you.

courtneyiscool · Joined: 26 Mar 2007 Posts: 130

to their intuition. That's why God gave it to us - to avoid the jerks and lying men out there!

Humanity2008 · Joined: 25 Feb 2008 Posts: 43

Yes, the Internet has made it easier for cheaters to find mor victims. But these people would have still been Scum of the Earth, witout the technology. One thing has not changed. Many women still remain and support (physcially and emotionally) these low life. If you have strong financial ties, I guess it is hard for women to "just leave". I know my ex's wife knew about me and his other mistress. I let him go when I found out about the wife and his profiles on gay men's sites. Yes, Kimberly Krantz may still be livng with her husband Steven Krantz, but she has got to be wondering what he will do next and What are is real feelings for her. I'm sure that whatever he did to me, (lie, betrayal, manipulation), he has also done to her. She is a professional woman with a very high profile job with a major aerospace company. I know she could easily find a man who would love her better than her husband. But again, Steve can be very persuasive with his "little boy" expressions. Read my blog you will see the hurt and pain he caused me. God knows what his wife is doing to keep up the appearance:

www.justperfectinLA.Blogspot.com

cybercheatswife · Joined: 02 May 2008 Posts: 3

I too have a cheating husband hence the name. he found her on Mate1.com and then lied to me about seeing or chatting with someone else.
I found an e-mail from her saying how nice it was to finally see him after all these months,and she even sent him pictures of herself.
I believed him when he said there was no one else and three months later he was visiting her at her house five hours away from where we live.
If it wasnt for the internet and the dating sites I would still have a loving trusting relationship with the man I want to spend the rest of my life with.
But instead I have to resort to all sorts of sneeky tactics to make sure he isnt doing it again.
I dont want to live like this anymore but he still hasnt come clean with me so the trust is not really there and wont be till he stops lieing to himself and me.
He still thinks he got away with it because I am to chicken to confront him.

girlslikesports2 · Joined: 22 Apr 2008 Posts: 3

It has introduced an entire way of cheating into relationships. Some chat,some cam, some look for another connection while leaving the life they are cheating from on a normal routine..Either way flirting online is no different then cheating offline..it's a dead end street to a failing relationship somewhere. I speak from a place of hurt and healing now..

My Bf of 2 yrs lied to me about dating sites and i stooped to posting fake profiles and searching myspace and after having him respond to my fake profiles and finding myspace acct. i knew nothing about , all trust was gone, he had 3 dating sites and 3 social networking sites, and my heart broke and my relationship was dead at that moment..he denied other women, said the myspace was for work, even tried saying i was stalking him and it showed no moral character on my part..he was cheating but it somehow was my fault.

Since i live in another state and have not moved in completely yet , i have the man i thought i knew and the internet that made it easy to cheat sitting on my wishing i never had a computer list !

So just remember..if it feels a mate is cheating online, your probably right, but be prepared for what you might find, i expected to find nothing and found too much

Humanity2008 · Joined: 25 Feb 2008 Posts: 43

Chalene,

You mention getting someone else's nightmare.That's what happened to me. I have blog of the experience called, THE STEVEN JOHN KRANT NIGHTMARE; Romanic Dream Turned Into A Nightmare. Actually his poor wife Kimberly is still in the nightmare. Hopefully it is worth it, since I found out Steve had two heart attacks within two years and he is only 50 years.

This what happend after meeting someone who has taken lying to a new low: www.justperfectinLA.blogspot.com

broadview · Joined: 02 Sep 2008 Posts: 37

this is shameful.

Guitarista · Joined: 15 Aug 2008 Posts: 87

It is shameful indeed but it's also a reflection of our society in general...

....how much have you been screwed out of by Wall Street over the last 3 weeks or so???

I've quit all internet dating. My feeling about it is that it's better to spend the rest of my life single than put up with the crap I have dealt with on the Internet.

If I can't meet a guy in person and know where he lives and what he does and where he spends his time (and it better not be on the Internet too much), then I'm not interested.

Period.

I'm tough on myself.

I think it's time to be tough on them, too.