John Martin Bumbas

[MidnightLace1949]

JOHN MARTIN BUMBAS

This is to all you Ladies who have known John in one way or the other...feel free to comment....but if it is rude, nasty & disrespectful of John… keep it to yourself!!!
For those of you who feel it necessary to desecrate the life of any human...look at yourself in the mirror long & hard before you cast your stones. He who is without sin...let them cast their stones....Judge ye not, least you be judged!!! Have you walked in Johns' shoes??? No so keep your desecration of this proud American & US Marine, (whose suffering you can never begin to fathom), to yourself....If you can't say anything good about the dead, leave their memory at peace for those of us who empathies & are grieving right along with his family & friends. Those who live in glass houses shouldn't cast stones.
Consider Johns’ brief presence in your life a small gift he gave you. He chose us all for a reason …read on & find out why he chose you as well as so many other Ladies
Peace to you all & remember John & his grieving family with a prayer on your lips & in your heart….that is if you have a heart!!!

Open Letter to my new found friend of John Martin Bumbas

Dear J,

Like you I did not sleep a wink either, I had a full day of medical testing & while having the 3 MRI's, I just closed my eyes & relived every moment John & I had with each other, as well as our email, IM's & phone chats late at night.

I have not thought of anyone else since he told me "Good Luck to you in the future" last month.

Yes I believe he did lie, just a bit, but like you said, he was definitely "starved" for intimacy of every kind. He found it with sacrificially selected Ladies. He didn't pick just any woman. We weren’t just the run of the mill women or street whores. We were & are mature adult women, still exciting, passionate and "hot"...just as excited, passionate & "hot" as John, because obviously we were "starved" for intimacy & a connection with a charming gentleman like John who truly was a gentleman, even though he did lie about us being "the only one for him”.

I read & re read his obituary & everything it says is true & he told me about it to a point, all except his second wife. I know he detested alcohol & only drank ice tea.

Yes.... God has forgiven John & I truly believe John made his final confession, was anointment for the ill & dying, given absolution & last rights, and is buried in sanctified ground. I am catholic & we didn't get into that discussion much, but he did prize his faith & never went without his crucifix on.

Yes, I do believe he knew he was dying. I envy you having John call you. I only have his emails & IM's to read, yet I can still see him when we first met in Belle Vernon & smell his marvelous cologne. I have not been to sleep yet since I last spoke to you, so I will pray my rosary for him tonight & every night , & pray for him to come to me, to fill my nights with dreams of our togetherness for the rest of my life. For I shall never have another man in my life like John Martin Bumbas... We have all sinned in our lives , Johns sins were not mortal, he was human, with human needs just like us ladies who had the privilege of letting him have his way with us BECAUSE WE WANTED HIM TO...I'd do it ALL AGAIN, every day, as long as it were John. I haven't room in my heart for anyone else. John is the only man I shall ever think of again 'till the day I die & I shall relish every memory.

I have plans to go to "our little house" for the 4th & visit his grave & leave John a white rose . I'll probably take off tomorrow morning before the big traffic rush hits in the afternoon. I'll have only my cell phone so if you want to meet up just give me a call.

I am happy for you & glad you have R....yet you, I, p v & the other ladies we don't know about yet, have John Martin Bumbas memory to keep alive in our hearts as we see fit..

I so hoped that John & I would work, now I know why we or any of his Ladies would not have worked....he knew in his heart, (yes... John had a heart although badly abused & bruised by 2 wives) what he couldn't tell us or even fully accept in himself. This is why there was so much secrecy & all those little white lies. I truly loved John & I believe he came very close to accepting me as a partner in whatever he wanted...until he found out he was terminally ill. John didn't want us to be hurt by him any more nor could he have his family know how starved & lonely he truly was....I truly believe he had a great deal of family issues like he said & porbably went broke trying to keep them all happy, while John languished & suffered from the lack kindness, tenderness, caring, passion & intimacy from the women in his life, therefore John was literally forced to seek out women like you, me & the other Ladies, because we satisfied his every need emotionally as well as intimately....I believe that is the highest complement I have ever received . I am not ashamed of or for myself or any of the other woman who has had the pleasure of his company even, if for just a few short, now very precious hours....There is a reason for every person’s season, I am pleased & PROUD to have been a small part of John Martin Bumbas's season.

God Speed, "John...dear".

With shared heavy broken heart & oceans of tears.

Warmest regards

GMc
John’s
LilWVPADoll

[broadview]

won't go near him.

[pinkviolets]

Why would you say this when the man is dead?? He broke alot of women's hearts over the years - of this I'm sure. But he is now gone & I wonder how many of his "on-line" girlfriends know this.

[donalou42]

How sad I am to hear of his passing! It's hard to believe that I met him over 8 years ago. I'll always remember that voice that would make me melt, his cologne, and his laugh! I loved to be able to make him laugh! I had no delusions, and I truly believe that every one of us were somehow special to this man. I know he was, and always will be, special to me. He wasn't perfect, and none of us are. It's not for any of us to judge him. Anyone who thought they could "tame" him, certainly didn't know him well!
Life takes us in different directions, and I hadn't talked to John recently, except for an email here and there. I realized last week I hadn't seen him signed online for awhile, so I sent a short email to my friend. When he didn't reply, something in my gut told me that there was something wrong. So I did a search, and found this page, and his online guestbook. What a shock! I will spend this day crying.
In one of John's profiles, he compared himself to Clark Gable, and of course Mr. Gable's most memorable character was Rhett Butler. John and Rhett had much in common! Passion, that dry humor, devastating looks,a hint of danger, and of course, mystery! A rogue who wouldn't be tamed, at least not for long. But above all, he was a Gentleman.
I pray that John has found the peace he could never seem to find in this life. My prayers are with his family and friends.
Rest Well "Darlin"

Dona

[pinkviolets]

I just don't understand how John got away with treating all of us with such disdain & yet everyone he touched misses him dearly. He was such a cad & yet he holds fond places in our hearts. I go back & forth between disbelief that he's gone, anger for how he literally held up my heart & the memories of those hours we spent alone. He was unavailable to all of us, except for a few hours of passion when he made us forget our real lives. I think about him almost every day, still wondering how he could be so cold & heartless & then so passionate in the confines of a motel room. I am just as lost now as I was when he was alive, taunting me with IMs to "come out & play" & then disappearing when it came time to meet. We had some wonderful times together, but it wasn't worth the anguish I suffered for enjoying it. I didn't know he was dying or I would have treated him differently that last time I spoke to him. He could squelch any tender feelings I had for him with bad behavior. I have to live without any closure for this man & will probably always remember him with a combination of anger & warm memories. I'm hoping the latter wins out.

[coolchick332]

I def. won't go near this guy either.