Laurence (Larry) McHugh, Winchester, MA

karyn62 · Joined: 21 Apr 2008 Posts: 5

He calls himself “Lubalicious Larry” (gag) and he is a very patient man. He pursued me for 5 months before I gave in. He wore me down. He will tell you he is married if asked, but the story goes...he and his wife are just hanging in together until the youngest daughter graduates. They share nothing and even have separate lives. Their marriage broke down 15 yrs ago and they have just been existing ever since. He will tell you he even walked out of the hospital when his youngest daughter was born because he could not believe she was his because they rarely had sex. He will tell you he hates his wife, that she had an affair with her boss, that she is his big fat 190 Lb problem, life at home is hell and he will spend every moment he can with you.

And he did spend more time with me than he did at home. He’ll parade you around town, go to restaurants, malls, grocery stores and seem to have no fear of being seen by his wife or 3 teenaged kids so everything seems so believable. He will buy you things and treat you like gold, tell you he loves you, promise you the world & the future until you start questioning his story. At first he has an answer for everything. But then the lies start to catch up to him, and then you will see the angry, violent side of him. I said no more and I sent him home to take care of his family situation because his youngest daughter was in crisis and instead of going home within two weeks he had found a new victim to run this story on. What was more pathetic was that he found her at a “MEETING” and she was barely days sober. Now this man had been sober for 21 years without going to any “MEETINGS” so now all of a sudden he needs it? No, he is a predator looking for prey. He abuses a program that is meant for people who truly need it to stay clean and sober and he uses it to manipulate those around him. Those closest to him know what a user, cheat & liar he is but at “MEETINGS” he gets to play victim and hero. If I count the lies this guy told me they are in the 100’s.

God help you if you have children, especially those that don't have a father figure in their lives because he will take it upon himself to get extremely close to them like he did my 11 yr old son and make them promises of fishing, boating, camping and say," no matter what happens between me and your mother I will always be your friend and be there for you," and of course he won't follow through and you want to talk about heartbreak? You will be left to pick up the pieces of a shattered Childs heart. My son is devastated. So after the back and forth I did what any woman would do, I called his wife & got the real story. He is still VERY married. So I told her where she could find him at his new victim’s house and sure enough he was trying to run a three ring circus with the wife, me and his new g/f.

He has no remorse about any of this. He is just angry he got caught. This man is a sociopath, not capable of love, monogamy, he is prone to violence when cornered; he will say and do whatever is necessary to get what he wants. Obviously he will never stop because he has no reason too. He has cheated on his wife numerous times and after getting caught she is still with him today. He has just learned to hide things better because he still has his new “FRIEND” but he just tells his family that he sponsors her even though she has her own female sponsor, so he is just “HIDING HER IN PLAIN SIGHT”
So yes ladies he is still married!!!! He rides a Harley at times which he tries to use to pick up women and he also frequents “Sobriety Meetings” searching for the truly vulnerable. So watch out ladies, stay far away from this man because he will not only break your heart, your kids hearts, but he will integrate himself into every aspect of your life, family etc and leave you feeling like you jumped in front of an inbound train.

LAPeep · Joined: 28 Mar 2007 Posts: 6

Quit complaining and take responsibility for your own decisions. You chose to be with a man who was married and now you are shocked that he has bad character? How did you think it would turn out?? The fact that you are a parent and dragged your child through this makes it 10 times worse. I hope that you meet with a counselor who will help you with self esteem issues that led you to get involved with a man like this. This site is to expose men who pretend to be something they are not. This guy told you that he was married but you still got involved with him. Of course they blame their wives for the problems but most women woud not have given him the time of day.

here_by_default · Joined: 03 Oct 2006 Posts: 1

and if you look around you find a lot of people on here who have been taken by knowingly married men. It doesn't sound like she is complaining to me but just warning other women because it seems like she is not the only one to fall for this guy. She also says she realized her mistake and sent him packing back home to his family but he just found someone else and did the same thing. I think you are being a little harsh Lapeep?!. Everybody makes mistakes and she realized hers and tried too do the right thing and is now just telling other women how sincere this guy appears. Good luck Karyn62! 5 months would have made anybody weak!

LAPeep · Joined: 28 Mar 2007 Posts: 6

If she continues to blame HIM; without seeing her part she will just repeat the mistake again.

He said he was MARRRIED. Here's a tip...when they say they are MARRIED don't date him...

He didn't lie about being married which is a whole different situation. She knew he was married and now is complaining. And it's not a surprise there is another one - there are plenty of women who think that with them it will be different and they will be the ones to fix them.

Men can sniff out women like this in a heartbeat and will continue to abuse women because women allow it.

Time_2_Heal · Joined: 15 Jun 2008 Posts: 9

because as I have browsed the forums & I have come across topics like ""I'm the other woman," "The Married man & the lies" and all kinds of women that are having affairs with married men asking "What should I do?" Also I have read some very angry hostile name calling posts that women have put on here about there ex's. But this one is neither and it is the only one that LAPeep seems interested in. Hmmm vested interest? Are you maybe this mans wife? child? relative? friend? lover?

I agree with here_by_default, I don't think she is complaining at all but just warning other women about this guys tactics, his stories, and how convincing and aggressive he can be. She is not hostile, she chose not to put his name and picture on the front with mean words like many of the women on here. She just told her story calmly and very well thought out I might add. I have browsed through enough of these to see the difference. I hope everything is going well for you Karyn62. Let LAPeep have this guy Laughing

Time_2_Heal · Joined: 15 Jun 2008 Posts: 9

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karyn62 · Joined: 21 Apr 2008 Posts: 5

Wow, I haven't been on here since I posted this back in April. I forgot about it until a friend called me and asked me about it. Thank you for your support Here_by_Default & Time_2_Heal. I think you are right about LAPeep, and she has no idea what she is talking about.

I have never had a problem getting guys, there are no self esteem issues in that department, I do go to therapy for other reasons and guess what LAPeep? This guy attended therapy with me! This is how genuine he appears. As a matter of fact I passed up a great single guy at the time, and went against everything I believe in to go with this guy. I look back now and think, WHAT WAS I THINKING? This is so not me!

But in actuallity it was my first encounter with a sociopath & I'm not the first to be taken by one of them. The charisma is overwhelming. Some of the worlds greatest psychiatrist's have been fooled by them. I have been greatly enlightened Since I read "The Sociopath Next Door" by Martha Stout, Ph.D.
Again, thank you for your support and well wishes, and for reminding LAPeep what DDHG is all about! Yes I am doing great. Getting rid of him was the smartest decision I ever made in my life.

The Face of a Sociopath:

Larry McHugh, age 52

karyn62 · Joined: 21 Apr 2008 Posts: 5

I just want to give some other women on here some encouragement as well. There were times during this whole drama episode that I was so pissed off and hurt that I could have killed,and I didn't even know what to do with all the emotions raging inside of me.

As time goes on I am starting to realize some lessons I learned from this. Not everything happens for a reason but we can learn from our experience. I have learned a lot about myself and what I want and don't want in a relationship. I have also learned that I am strong and I can get through anything and it will take a lot more than this to take me down. Will I ever repeat that mistake again, NEVER! This guy Larry is not worth wasting my energy getting mad about. He is a pathetic insecure little man and you almost have to feel sorry for him. He and his wife Karen deserve each other.
But By closing that door on him, another was able to open up. By letting go of him and my anger and resentment I was able to see better opportunities. Now I am seeing a great guy. (yes really divorced) & I would have to say the most kind considerate man I have ever met.

The point is that you have to close the doors on these assholes, let go of them, the anger and move on. There are still great guys out there but if your wrapped up in these kind of shitty relationships then you won't be able to open up any new doors to see what's behind them. My heart goes out to everyone here who is going through pain and hurt caused by a cheater, liar or abuser and my thoughts are with you as you start to heal and move on. Best wishes to all of you.
Of course I'll still be a part of the DDHG community & if anyone ever needs to talk then don't hesitate to message me.

broadview · Joined: 02 Sep 2008 Posts: 37

what drama. sorry.