Military men/relationships

[mynameislc]

what has your expirences with military men been? However please indicate if you were just a gf or acually a wife, bc im really trying to get some view on military life however from this sight iev notice its all been negatives about men basically bc its about those kind of men so im just looking for a non bias view on military relationships/marriages..Me and my husband are newly weds and are marriage is great just seeing if there are any positive pointers..Thank You.

[qteondty]

I have only had military men as booty calls or toys nothing more because I am not willing to leave the state for a man and to me those are the most dogs and in control men I have ever seen. If military is so grand like military wives say why do you gals hit the streets as soon as they leave for deployment.

[BoisByte]

I grew up in a city with a huge navy presence, as well as other armed forces all nearby. The boys were usually out for fun, and when NATO was in town, they were all on the prowl. I dated a guy for 6 months before finding out he had a wife & kids on another base. I had two roomies in the navy and after seeing the lifestyle, I swore never to marry anyone in the forces.

[Joy2307]

I'm in the military and there are a few that are faithful to their wives and girlfriends but there are more that are dogs. I've been hit on by more married men than you can imagine. I constantly see others that are cheating while their wives are back home. Most of the single ones will sleep with anything that comes around. I would be concerned about stds because they will share a girl if their buddy tells them she's a hoe. If you are with a military man trust your intuition

[magiczmommy]

first of all every man is Different...you can ask if military men cheat...but then you are going to find out all the men that DO...not so much the ones that Dont...if you ask how many Firemen cheat or policemen cheat or just the average guy...you are going to find tons of men that cheat...so Narrowing your question to just military men is going to point out all the bad ones...There are plenty of cheaters out there...You have to actually get to know someone as a indvidual...women can usually sense if a guy could potentially be a cheater,,we as creatures who want to trust and fix men,,,CHOOSE to be with them...listen to your guy...if you are with him and it just doesnt feel right for some reason...then dont be with him. If you any reason to not trust him...then Dont. But NO not all military men cheat...I am a military wife and i know plenty of happy military couples who have been married for years.

[cali4ange]

I haven't dated a military guy, except one, and he was just looking for a fwb. I'd say that you should ask yourself if you want to move a few times if you want tos tay with your husband. If you can handle the mental issues you or your husband may face after going into war territory. I've heard a lot that there are psychological issues after entering into a warzone. Once you are at a distance, communication is hard to do.

[jarrodsbaby26]

i have been with my boyfriend who is in the army for almost three years, not all military men are bad. actually most of the ones i know are awesome men

[andreangeleyez]

I had to comment on this one.So I'm married to a man in the Army.And we are currently going through a divorce.My husband got stationed at Fort Campbell KY.I was 4 months when he was stationed there.He told me that I couldn't go.Which I understand that there is a waiting list for a house.Anyways my husband call me when I was 9 months pregnant with our 2nd child and informed me that he didn't want me anymore.Finding out that he had met someone on base that his army friends introduced him to (they of course knew he was married).He met her in April and I had our daughter in May.I was told after a couple of weeks of knowing her he asked her to marry him.Then when he came home to see our daughter being born he was was updating this skank on how my labor was progressing.Thats not the first time he cheated on me.I dated another army guy years ago and he cheated too.My husband use to tell me about all his army friends that were cheating on their wives and girlfriends.I call it play time.If I were you I wouldn't trust any military man.THEY ARE ALL CHEATERS.And for the women that are in the military they are whores.They join just to have a good time with the men.

[catscalw]

I can't say I agree with this. I know some military personel of both sexes, and this generalization just doesn't wash. I understand that you have had traumatic, awful experiences, but I know several people in the Military, especially a few women, who have integrity and are faithful.

To say that all military men are cheaters is an unfair generalization.To say that all women in the military are whores is simply and obviously false, and advertises your selfish hate and spiteful ignorance.

I find it personally offensive that you would make such a statement: deal with your anger and pain without maligning people who give their lives so I can enjoy uninterrupted sleep each night.

No, I'm not in the Military.

I'm as liberal as they come.

[andreangeleyez]

Well considering every female that I have EVER met in the military has been knocked down in rank because they slept around with the commanders and sgts.So yeah pretty much they are.And as for the men in the military I can maybe name a hand full that are faithful to their wife or girlfriend.As they say while the wife is away the military man will play.And its the truth.And for the women who think that their so special military husband would never do that to them HA HA they do. It's just that they haven't found out about it yet.I was actually with my husband at the barracks one time in his SGTs room and he was married,but what do you know he had tons of pics up on the wall of him and some other women.While he was on the phone with his wife telling her that he loves her so much.All i'm saying is your better watch your man.And if he has any single friends that he's going out with you better cut that off real fast.Peer pressure from another military man is a bitch.And they don't want to look like that in front of them.GOOD LUCK GIRL.

[NVRSCORNED]

I really do feel for these women who were dating or married to military men but I feel like they are only sharing one side of the story. I am not in any way excusing what the military men who cheated did but it is important to remember that in general men in the military tend to get married at a much younger age the the men in the general population. Oftentimes they are immature and have no buisness getting married but they do for various reasons. Most of the time there reasons are altruistic, they are in love with their girlfriend and worry she will cheat on them while they are deployed, sometimes they are far less noble reasons, they get better pay, more leave time, better benefits if they are married. But the bottom line is they are often young and people change. They don't yet have the same level of emotional and mental maturity that a man in his late twenties or early thirties has. They don't have the life experiences, and they cave in easily to peer pressure. They are surrounded by a bunch of guys in a frat house like atmosphere. They face unsure deployment dates and are goofy and nervous. There are a lot of reasons why they cheat and I do not think all of them or even most of them go into a relationship expecting to cheat on the women they are with. My best advice to you is make clear your expectations of him in a non-threatening way without nagging or treating him like a child. Tell him you are going to do your best to treat him as an individual and not take away certain freedoms he enjoys just because many military men cheat on their wives. Let him clearly know what is and isn't acceptable behavior in your book. IE. No females alone with him in his barrack, No going to "that" bar. Don't ban him from all bars just the one that is notorious for always being filled with military groupies. Believe me every city with a major base has one of those bars nearby. Another piece of advice I can give you is meet his friends and get in good with them. Make yourself a person not just a picture he has on his wall that will make it harder for them to encourage him to screw around behind your back or for them to set him up with random bar skanks. Beyond that all I can say is keep him close but don't smother him or steriotype him as a cheater just because of his line of work.

[catscalw]

[andreangeleyez]