WHAT DOES NO SEX MEAN?

SEXY_LADY22 · Joined: 07 Jul 2008 Posts: 1

IS HE CHEATING OR NOT, HE WONT EVEN GET AFFECTIONATE AT ALL WITH ME AND THERE HAS BEEN NO ROMANCE AND NO INTIMACY, IT USE TO BE EVERY DAY. NOW IT'S ONCE EVERY WEEK. Confused

ab11cd33 · Joined: 12 Jul 2008 Posts: 11

This is a tough subject, and it can mean different things to different people. Sometimes a relationship does get a little stale and needs a little extra spark. Talk to him, try something new. As for the no romance, that is a much trickier issue. I have seen relationships with very little romance, but lots of intimacy; I have also seen relationships with lots or romance, but very little intimacy. It take two to bring the romance back into a relationship. I hope he isn't cheating on you, but I have to be honest this a possible sign. It isn't enough on its own, but if you are worried keep an open mind to his activities. If he is going to cheat he is going to cheat, and there is nothing you can do about it. It is never your fault, if he isn't happy he should let you know and you should work it out together. As usual this is my male opinion and you should take anything you read online with a grain of salt.

catscalw · Joined: 15 Mar 2008 Posts: 126

Previous post has great advice...
mine is, "Talk to the man about it." There is no substitue for letting your needs and concerns be known in a respectful, loving way. ANY long term relationship will have it's signature cycles; hell, my wife and I have gone months without sex.
It's predictable, and be careful you don't attach too much meaning to it: it dosen't necessarily mean anything, about what he's doing outside the relationship. It certainly dosen't mean anything about how attractive and desireable you are as a woman, (Trust me!)

Intimacy and sexuality are as loaded for men, as they are for women. We men can mistakenly put as much, or more of our self-esteem and inner happiness on whether our partners seem to desire our intimacy on any given day, as women can. We retreat into isolation when we don't have an answer to a problem. We want to be everything to our partners, and give them all they could ever desire, and when the realities of time and money limit what we can give, we can get afraid that we will get rejected.

Everyone's different, but once a week dosen't sound so bad to me....schedules and commitments notwithstanding. Once a week of the right kind of loving and connected sex, for the right reasons, with enough time to not feel rushed, and be attentive and giving on both sides, would keep me going just fine.

GTRFTL · Joined: 20 Jul 2008 Posts: 5

No means yes.

usmc8408 · Joined: 03 Nov 2008 Posts: 5

your problem has a very simple name, and it's called a "relationship." welcome to it, and say goodbye to the honeymoon phase. no other species except for a few bugs (and no penguins are not monogamous, except for a season) ever settles for one woman, so you have to understand that naturally us men will get a little bored being with the same girl.....simple as that. that doesn't mean he is going to cheat or dump you though. so spice it up some, or just get used to sex once a week. talk to a couple married for 20 years and i'm sure they will tell you sex once a week is a phenomenal achievement.