Would you forgive a guy who hit you only once in a three yea

[mzeggy]

no...don't forgive him...trust me, i have been there and it's not good. my bf and i got into an arguement so he hit me..i was so shocked because i had never been hit before and i didn't know how to react. i ran away from him, but he kept calling me and apologising to me and saying how sorry he was and that he'd promise to never hit me again. and he didn't for the next few months until another arguement came up and it got worse. with the help of my friends and family, i got the courage to actually go to the police and get advice on his abuse towards me and got a restraining order against him.

[Eyanti]

I am one of four girls in my family and my father always told my sisters and I to remember three things:
1) He is the only man in the world with the right to beat us (and I can count on my two hands how many times that happened)
2) If you go down (and you may) go down swinging
and lastly
3) Always have money in the bank to bail your brothers out of jail if you have to or to just get up and leave.

I live by those words. I have and always will keep a bank account just for emergencies. You would be surprised how much money you can save putting aside as little as $20 a week for a couple of years can add up to.

[ika13ny]

I was in an abusive relationship for 7 yrs. I was very naive and my parents never talk to me about boys. One thing I learned, once he hit you he will do it again. I kept quite for the longest till I could'nt anymore. I had my own house, car everything. One day I open my eyes grabbed my son left everything and started a new life. My son mean everything to me. Now I am happily married with three kids and enjoying life to the fullest. My point is, if the man controls your every move, run as fast as you can and dont look back. It aint worth it, at the end you will find the right one even if it takes you yrs.

PS. if he hits you, uses drugs,lies, tells you sad stories all the time run run run!!!!!!!!! LOVE DONT KILL NO ONE

[roxygirl28]

I would advise her to end it and move on. I was in a relationship for 3yrs and he was sweet the first one. Then he started acting out which took me by surprise. At first, I excused his behavior by telling myself he was under stress, inbetween jobs, I was being to bitchy about picking up after himself. It started out of nowhere with him shoving me into a wall and then dragging me across the floor. He apologized and I stayed 2more years. Within that time he hit me, dragged me, shoved me, literally kicked me out of bed with his feet in the middle of the night because he had a dream "that i was cheating!" I found out towards the end, he was using drugs, abused alcohol and had also beaten his previous girlfriends. My point is, once there is physical abuse and the woman doesn't put a STOP to it...there will be a next time, and a next time, and maybe one of those times, you'll be attending a funeral instead.

[ab11cd33]

First thing is first, what kind of hit was this? Was it a slap, did he close hand punch, kick, throwing an object? If you love someone, you should never raise your hand at them no matter how frustrated you are. All the same sometimes people can go over the edge and in extreme and I mean really extreme I can would almost forgive an open handed slap. Mark it down in your mind, if he has cheated on you, degraded you, or disrespects you then I would leave him. If this is the first time anything like this has ever happened then I would let it go for now. Never stick around after the second hit, it will likely be worse and will happen harder and more often from then on.
If he hit you in the face with a closed fist leave now, and forget him. There are plenty of good men out there and getting hit isn't something you should have to worry about. No matter what happened it wasn't your fault, even if you hit him first it isn't right. If you did hit him, remember that he has feeling too. Neither partner in a relationship has the right to hit the other. In summary, if it is an understandable mistake or was provoked, forgive him this once. If it was a deliberate physical attack aimed at hurting your or intimidating you pack your bags. All the same it might be good to give yourselves some temporary distance so you can reflect on the incident. I am a man, and as a child we are all told to never hit a woman. Use your best judgment, don't let him cloud your judgment. Honestly examine the relationship alone and when you, and only you know the correct action, take it. This as usual is just my opinion.

[kitty8199]

It is never just once. He will do it again, and it will be worse next time. Let me guess his apology went something like "I'm sorry, I'll never do it again, I'll do whatever it takes, I'll get help, I love you, I don't know what happened, I don't want to loose you so I will never let it happen again" with alot of tears and boo hoos. Remember ALL victims of DV had to get hit that first time. It is up to you if you let it happen the second.