Would you forgive a guy who hit you only once in a three yea

[courtneyiscool]

A girlfriend of mine called me yesterday to tell me that her boyfriend hit her. He's a great guy and feels really bad about what he did. He's never, ever done this to her before. She wants to forgive him, but doesn't know if this could be the start of something leading to domestic violence. What do you guys think?

[cautiousandwise]

Here is an even BETTER question: Has he ever hit any of his previous girlfriends, sisters, mother? Here is the deal: If a man believes hitting a woman is OK, then he will do so. A man with standards that says 'she deserves to be hit' doesn't change that mentality. A real man would never even let the THOUGHT of hitting a woman enter his mind as something he could or would do.

[magandthepats]

He's not a great guy if he hit her. Once you cross the line, things are never the same. She needs to show him the door, and fast!

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[bachick]

No I would never forgive him. However is he

[waterphilia]

It happened to me. He hit me in the heat of an argument. I showed him the door. Eventually that hit led to him stalking and me get an restraining against him for him to stay away. Trust me once someone hits you it is never the same.

[frefromNarcCPS]

No, not anymore.

[dwr3232323333333]

courtney you have picked a site that is very biased against men and probably not the place to get your concerns about you friend accurately met. Please read the following to know what I mean...these people dont care about you or your friend they only want the guy to rot, possibly at your friends loss of otherwise a great guy.

[cautiousandwise]

I am curious DWR, if you could please answer me a concern. When did a man hitting a woman, for ANY reason, other than self-defense, come to stand as questionable as to whether it is mistreatment or not? Why do PARENTS get sent to jail for ABUSE if they hit their children, but when a big manly man hits a woman, it's it up to debate as to whether or not THAT is mistreatment????

[Pat72]

I wonder if everyone would have the same view if it was the girl that hit the guy? I'm a guy and my wife punched me in the mouth in the heat of an arguement 5 years ago. It was the first and last time it ever happened and our marriage is great. I forgave her. If she'd of done it again I'd of left but she's such a great woman I had to give her the benefit of the doubt that it was a one time thing. Do you think this guy does? I really don't know b/c I don't know the guy, but my wife sure did and I thank God that I did give her the chance to not do it again.

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[dwr3232323333333]

PART ONE - cautiosandwiseYourPuttingWordsInOthersMouth.I neverMentionedWhatYouAsk!I wrote""if he thinks sheDeservesToBeHit""!IDontKnowAboutYouButThePlanet ILiveOnIBumpIntoPeopleallTheTimeWhoBehaveInMannerThatYouCouldJustifySmackingThem.ThisDoesntMeanIAmPromotingHittingPeople.ParentsWhoDontspankDoesntMeanTheyDontEverFeelLikeSpankingTheirKids.TheyFindOtherwaysToPunish,MorePainfulWaysActually.IdTakeTheSpankingOverAWeeksRestrictionForInstance.

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[ikn0myshit]

well i think that shouldnt let it get in the way fo the realtionship if its been a good one n hes really sorry about it. but she needs to keep gher guard up if she wants to stay with him. cuz if he hits her once theres never telling if he might do it again. out of anger orr w.e

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