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I've been dating this guy for several months now, and everything is going great. We only have one problem, his sister. She talks down to, not only me, but to him, his mother and father. I tried being nice but she has been nothing but condescending since I met her. Recently she has become a strain on our relationship and I have told him this but he won't confront her, saying it will cause a huge fight and make everyone else stressed out. His parents also know that him and I feel this way about it but have not talked to her either.
I am refusing to talk to this girl because she just feels like she's better and smarter than you; confrontation is impossible, especially from me, because she feels she's perfect and will say she has done nothing wrong and that I'm over reacting. I find it extremely hard to be around her and have told him I refuse to be in her presence because I will not be treated like that. I'm not sure what to do about the situation; I can't spend any time with his family if she's there (which has been quite a bit, lately). Please help!!
Wondering 29 July, 2008 - 11:59
Wondering 29 July, 2008 - 11:59
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When you are dating a man, it is his responsibility to make sure that his family is treating you well. If his sister is talking down to you, he should tell her to knock it off or he shouldn't bring you around her. She sounds like a spoiled brat and there is no reason why you should have to endure her comments. Would you let your sister talk down to him? If your boyfriend continues to tolerate being treated this way, it says something about him. He has weak boundaries and rest assured it will carry over into other areas of his life. If he won't draw a line with her on this issue, he will probably let her and other people push him around in other ways. Is that the kind of guy you want to be with? Now of course people do endure a lot of horrible family experiences for the person they love and many people don't get along with their in-laws after they get married. But you aren't married yet. If he isn't strong enough to ask his sister to be nicer to you, is this the kind of guy you want to stay with for any length of time? Only you can answer that question.
I agree with Alison. This guy needs to nip this in the bud with this sister. Sounds like the sister's got problems and enjoys stirring the pot. If this was his mother being overbearing, I could understand, because mothers tend to do that, but his sister? That's just uncalled for. He needs to have a talk with his sister and get this problem settled once and for all.